April 9, 2011 2 Comments
Just wondering if anyone else runs into this issue. I have recently had several (maybe 6 or 7 ) friends and family members ask me about Paleo. They see the results I have had and want to achieve similar results. I have sent links to various Paleo sites, I have written down what I eat over the course of a few days, I have written down what you should and should not eat to make it even more simple I go super basic – “eat: meat, veggies, fruit, nuts and seeds” and “don’t eat anything that doesn’t fall into those categories” but this next statement always follows “But what about ______” or “can I still have_____ I won’t do this diet if I can’t have______” It is like they assume I can wave a magic wand over them and make Paleo work for them AND that I have the power to make their need for _______ be OK. I wish I did have this magic wand because there are foods I want to eat from time to time that are not Paleo. As I write this post I realize the largest source of my frustration – my little sister. She is one year younger, she carries too much stress and too much weight. She (like me) has used food as her drug. At the end of a rough day she will devour foods that make her “feel” better. She and I share the same story of so many times losing weight, just to put it back on with a few extra pounds to fully crush that little bit of self esteem we gained from losing the weight. The difference now – we are not young anymore…she is heavier than I was when I changed my old eating habits for Paleo. She is on medication for blood pressure. She told me that she can no longer fit into her pants and needs to go up another size. I felt sick to my stomach not only for knowing what that feels like but sick that I could not “reach” her…sick that I didn’t have that magic wand to customise Paleo to her specifications. She has asked me to write down everything I eat over the next week and she said she will “try” to follow what I do but she started to list all of the items she cannot live without…ugggggg….where can I buy that damn magic wand. I didn’t sign up to be the voice of Paleo, but, my results have put me in the position to speak about it. I am still trying to figure it out myself and don’t want to leed anyone in the wrong direction. I don’t want to hear “Diane – I did what YOU told me and it didn’t work”. I know how it goes…I was a master at eating one way in front of others and binge eating in private. Blaming everyone and anything other than myself. As I write this post I can see that I have unresolved issues related to weight loss that I need to address. I am in a position with those 6 or 7 people of influence…I didn’t ask to be in this position and I would rather work out my own “mental junk” before attempting to help them work through their junk…but life doesn’t work that way. Right now…I want to “reach” my sister. Right now I want my mind and my eyes to catch up to the results my body has had with Paleo. I am still not comfortable in my smaller shell. I laugh when I take my new pants from the dryer and look at them and think “who the hell do these belong to” The results I have had scare me at times…like when will it end…waiting for the day I wake up and look in the mirror and see the “old” Diane looking back at me. It is the issues that hit too close to home that are the most uncomfortable for us when it comes to helping others. But, it is these very issues that we carry the most influence to help others create change for themselves.